Fun Family & Good Friends – that's what life should be about

Happiness

Absurd

I’m not the reason you’re looking for redemption
You cut some strings and everything will fade away
You tried to use some physical connection
There’s nothing left for you to say
By the way

We used to be friends
We used to be inner circle
I don’t understand
What have I become to you
Take my good word
Turn it backwards
Turn your back on me
Is it absurd
For me to hurt
When everything else is fading

We used to be friends
We used to be inner circle
I don’t understand
What have I become to you
Take my good word
Turn it backwards
Turn your back on me
Is it a absurd
For me to hurt
When everything else is fading

We used to be friends
We used to be in a circle
I don’t understand
What have I become to you
Take my good word (used to be friends)
Turn it backwards
Turn your back on me (used to be in a circle)
Is it a absurd
For me to hurt
When everything else is fading

We used to be friends
We used to be in a circle
I don’t understand
What have I become to you

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Darkest

Regrets collect like old friends
Here to relive your darkest moments
I can see no way, I can see no way
And all of the ghouls come out to playAnd every demon wants his pound of flesh
But I like to keep some things to myself
I like to keep my issues drawn
It’s always darkest before the dawn

And I’ve been a fool and I’ve been blind
I can never leave the past behind
I can see no way, I can see no way
I’m always dragging that horse around

Our love is pastured, such a mournful sound
Tonight I’m gonna bury that horse in the ground
So I like to keep my issues drawn
But it’s always darkest before the dawn

Shake it out, shake it out, shake it out, shake it out, ooh whoa
Shake it out, shake it out, shake it out, shake it out, ooh whoa
And it’s hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off, oh whoa

And I am done with my graceless heart
So tonight I’m gonna cut it out and then restart
‘Cause I like to keep my issues drawn
It’s always darkest before the dawn

Shake it out, shake it out, shake it out, shake it out, ooh whoa
Shake it out, shake it out, shake it out, shake it out, ooh whoa
And it’s hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off, oh whoa

And it’s hard to dance with a devil on your back
And given half the chance would I take any of it back
It’s a fine romance but it’s left me so undone
It’s always darkest before the dawn

Oh whoa, oh whoa…

And I’m damned if I do and I’m damned if I don’t
So here’s to drinks in the dark at the end of my road
And I’m ready to suffer and I’m ready to hope
It’s a shot in the dark aimed right at my throat
‘Cause looking for heaven, found the devil in me
Looking for heaven, found the devil in me
Well what the hell I’m gonna let it happen to me, yeah

Shake it out, shake it out, shake it out, shake it out, ooh whoa
Shake it out, shake it out, shake it out, shake it out, ooh whoa
And it’s hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off, oh whoa

Shake it out, shake it out, shake it out, shake it out, ooh whoa
Shake it out, shake it out, shake it out, shake it out, ooh whoa
And it’s hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off, oh whoa


Empowerment


Being Different

(or being not-boring)


Gallery

Infinite


Image

Crossing Bridges

bridges


New Oceans

I’ve learned, over the last few years particularly, to embrace change.  The biggest moments in my life involved change (not always welcome), and that is ultimately what defines a watershed moment in life – something changes.

I love the zen story of good and bad, the farmer who just accepted things as they happened and his neighbours who wanted to label things…

There is a Taoist story of an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit. “Such bad luck,” they said sympathetically.

“Maybe,” the farmer replied. The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses. “How wonderful,” the neighbors exclaimed.

“Maybe,” replied the old man. The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune. “Maybe,” answered the farmer. The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out. “Maybe,” said the farmer.

(http://www.katinkahesselink.net/tibet/zen.html)

It symbolises what I believe, that even in our worst moments, when the world feels black and cold and desolate and we don’t know the way forward, something further down the road is waiting for us.  We just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other to get there, which can often feel like walking through soft sand.  I love Churchill – “If you’re going through hell, keep going”, such a simple statement that says so much, yet it is so easy to sit still in our misery, wallow, stay in hell because the road ahead is hard.  But it doesn’t last forever.  Everything changes.

A friend and I were talking a while ago about this idea.  She was surprised when I said that I could find positive things that came out of the nightmare that was my daughter missing for five long long sleepless days.  “Really?” she asked.  “I wouldn’t have met you for a start,” I said.  “That’s true…” she said.

In our house, we live by the rule of ‘be afraid, do it anyway’ or in the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson – “Always do what you are afraid to do”, or the words of Frank Herbert – “Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”  Fear does not stop us doing what we want in our house, we recognise it, call it what it is, and move forward.

Looking back I can see the watershed moments that have shaped my life clearly, something changed, something small, something big.  I didn’t always know it at the time.  Today, I know this is a watershed moment.  Something changed and it brings with it a whole new direction for my life, the water is shifting course.  It’s a little scary and a lot awesome.  It means Big Things and New Things and Challenges and Life.

To quote Lao Tzu “If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading”.  Many times in my life I haven’t liked where I was headed but was too afraid to change.  I have no idea where the water will take me and I may not be able to see the bottom, but I do know that the scenery will change, the sky will look different, and somewhere I’ve never been before waits just around the bend.

So, some adventure quotes…

Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. Helen Keller

It is only in adventure that some people succeed in knowing themselves – in finding themselves. Andre Gide

Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore. Andre Gide